With all the sexting these days, it’s easy to get swept up and forget that actually hearing the person you are having sex with can add another level of intensity to the session. For some people having phone sex come easy. If you find it more awkward than sexy we have some tips to help it go smoother and feel more natural next time.
First things first remember that just like with real sex, unplanned phone sex will be better than scripted planned sex. All you need is to be in the mood, and to say something a little dirty and flirty to get things headed in the right direction. However its not a bad idea to think ahead to when you have some free time.
Next if talking dirty doesn’t come easy for you getting things started is still something you can do easily. A simple “I miss you” is all it takes. If it’s said in the right tone of voice can give your partner a clear indication of what you mean. If you don’t mind being blunter try “I really miss feeling you inside/wrapped around me.”
There are also a number of minor changes you can make prior to having phone sex that can set the right mood. Phone foreplay can be obvious or a little more subtle. For instance slowly moving from your regular conversational voice to a sexy whisper will usually cause your partner to begin whispering too. Sometimes they won’t even realize it. If they do ask just tell them you don’t want to be overheard. Set the right mood for yourself. First slip into something comfortable, then turn down your lights, and also minimize distractions like tvs, or call waiting.
Keep in mind that it is sex! Don’t be afraid to play with yourself. Enjoy the moment, and don’t hide your heavy breathing. Let it be a sexy addition to the conversation. Add in a few moans and you’re sure to have your partner playing with themselves right along with you. Don’t worry about going to in-depth with descriptions, if it makes you have to think to hard it will be the same for them. Finally remember to just keep it simple and try to just enjoy yourself.
