We’ve all hit ruts… Whether it’s a lull with your current partner, or just finding yourself always stuck in the same routine no matter who you are with ruts happen. Don’t worry! We have some tips to help you get out of it!
Remember back in the day when you would talk in code so you didn’t get caught? Well just because you don’t have to any more, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t anyway. It could be as simple as “I could really use a snack,” or if you have kids “come tuck me in” works great. It’s also nice to have a way to let your partner know what you want, when you want it, if you’re out and about and want to make your point clear without having people overhear you.
Leave the AC off to crank up the heat. Everyone knows sweating produces pheromones, so letting things get extra steamy will help create some seriously hot sex…literally.
Take a gamble and try adding a game to the bedroom, there are millions of options out there so you’re sure to find something to suit your tastes. If you’re new to trying things like this start slow with something simple like a pair of sex dice and work your way up to the kinkier stuff.
Set limits…time limits. Grab an egg timer or set an alarm and start things off with your favorite form of foreplay. But ABSOLUTELY no penetration until the timer goes off. Adding a little discipline and anticipation can really get things building quickly and help take the sex itself to a whole new level when you’re finally allowed to have each other.
Even small changes like swapping out a quickie for a no orgasm make out session can help add intimacy back into your sex life, and leaving each other turned on will help build up the need for that release when you do have time!
