Like other forms of phone sex, sexting is an amazing way to connect with your partner from miles away, build sexual tension in between rendezvouses, or even explore fantasies that you may not be comfortable sharing in-person. For this weeks installment of our Master Sexting Series we have some tips to help make sure you are sexting like a pro.

Make getting consent sexy

Asking if your partner is free to sext right now or getting consent for something you want to sext about doesn’t have to be a mood killer. Especially if you’re sending a sexy selfie. Think of asking for consent as a fun way to tease your partner. Try saying something like, “I just took a photo of myself post-shower, and I kind of want to send it to you…do you want to see?” Or, “I can’t stop thinking about last night, and I have an idea for what I want to do to you next time. Can I tell you what I’m thinking?”

Learn their lust lingo

Does your partner like when you call them “baby girl”? Or do they prefer that you call them a slut? What word for their genitals makes them feel the sexiest? Pay attention to whether they are saying pussy and cock or dick and vagina. Spend a little time getting to know what level of dirty talk your partner is comfortable with.

Be encouraging

your partner can’t hear the tone of your voice or read your body language its important to go the extra mile and make sure they know you’re enjoying yourself. Sprinkling the heart and kiss or drool emoji in is a good place to start, they are great for showing your partner how turned on you are by their sexts or pictures. It’s also never a bad time to tell your partner “you’re getting me so hot right now,” or “you are so sexy, it’s unbelievable.”

Remember that your sexting confidante is not expecting award-winning literature or photos. Part of what turns them on is knowing who’s behind the phone screen. We will see you next week for more tips and tricks to help you master sexting!