By now you have probably seen the findom photos floating around social media. Of all the sexual fetishes in the world, financial domination has perhaps one of the most glamorous images. This week’s strange sex Saturday is going to take a look at what exactly findom is and the lingo it uses.
What is Findom?
Findom is short for Financial Domination and falls under the BDSM umbrella. However, there is more to it than just beautiful women being sent money and expensive gifts from a submissive who gets nothing in return.
One anonymous submissive, also known as a cash-pig in the findom community said: “The arousal factor comes from the thought of the domme invading the personal space that is your finances People measure their self-worth with their money and so utilize it as a method of psychological self-harm.”
Financial domination is based on total power exchange, the submissive can do as little as send gifts to as much as handing over all banking information and being put on a tight budget by their domme. Most often this form of D/S relationship is solely conducted virtually. However some individuals do seek further intimacy in the relationship.
Why would someone want to be financially dominated?
Findom is a just like many other forms if you don’t have it you may never fully understand it. Some slaves want to be slowly driven to ruination, and other just get a kick out of sending tributes.
There are also those who might do it for the pure humiliation of having a woman laugh at him while she lingers on how pathetic he must be because he has to pay her for her attention. For some subs it is also a way to keep their domme closer. Didn’t answer their 4 am call? Took to long to respond to the 15 emails, well then the cash cow finds a new pasture. The domme may be in control of the finances but the sub is in just as much control as any other D/S relationship.
Learn the Findom lingo
There are a number of real fin domes out there, but finding one that will actually fulfil your needs and not just take advantage of the situation can be tricky. So here is some lingo that is important to know, that if your domme doesn’t know you should probably shop elsewhere.
Paypig, Money Slave, Peon: Is a submissive, usually a male, who tributes to his mistress and/or buys gifts for her. However, not all submissives who gives money to their mistress are a paypig. A paypig is usually someone whose fetish focuses on this idea. This is the thing that “gets them going”, take away that aspect of the relationship and they might not be able to get excited or aroused.
Money Mistress, Goddess: Is not a prostitute, and often will never come in physical contact with her slaves. She provides pleasure by taking over financial control of her slaves. This can be done through tribute, budgeting and in some cases consensual blackmail.
If you are interested in fandom you should look into a contract with your domme before relinquishing all control. We will see you next Saturday for some seriously strange loving!