Have you ever been in the middle of great sex and then suddenly get stuck in your head because your partners asked you to talk dirty to them? Do you find yourself wondering whether its better to say ‘penis’ ‘dick’ ‘cock’ or some other word? Don’t worry if you find yourself stumbling awkwardly through talking dirty we are here to help! Talking dirty is a skill, and as with all skills a little practice and preparation will have you uttering the most creative and arousing phrases at the drop of a dime.
Dirty talk is personal
The most important thing to remember is there is no right or wrong way to talk dirty. It can be raunchy and dramatic, or soft and playful. The key to you both enjoying dirty talk is to do what feels right to you. Your way, your volume, your words you just do what comes naturally to you.
If you are entirely new to sex start small until you get more comfortable. Try just talking about what is happening at this moment, or what you want to happen next. “You’re so deep inside of me. You feel so good.” “I want to feel you on top of me” You don’t have to be narrating the script of the porno you most recently watched to turn your partner on. So don’t worry about being someone you aren’t and just focus on the two of you in this moment and your desires.
Some advanced stuff
If you are just looking for some new stuff to add to your back pocket to keep things fresh try some of these phrases next time you want to whisper sweet nothings.
“Kiss me, my lips and my breasts and all the way to my pussy.”
“I want to give you the best head you’ve ever had.”
“I love the way you taste, it drives me crazy.”
“I want to feel you on top of me.”
“I need to feel you inside me”
“Ride me baby.”
“I need you to cum for me.”
One thing to keep in mind, don’t just blurt out blanket statements like “harder” if you don’t actually want them to go harder or faster because things can go from good sex to bad sex fast if you are asking for things you don’t actually want just to have something to say.